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Insecure to Sure: Where do Insecurities Come From?

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Where do our insecurities come from? Even the most confident women can suddenly get hit with insecurities that lead to anxiety and sadness that no one else may even notice. I've totally experienced this during certain times in my life. I'm not a person who typically struggles with anxiety on a consistent basis but I have had seasons where anxiety has become like that jean jacket I wear with every outfit. When I've stopped to consider where it's coming from, every time I realize it's about insecurity in my heart and mind. There have been different things that brought it on, but there is always a root that is causing it.

 

Some people just stop right there and never dig down to the root of those insecurities. I get that. It can be terrifying to acknowledge some of the most vulnerable places of our heart and the wounds of the past. God knows this and he is patient with us on the journey. Most of the time we need to face things in increments- tiny steps of realization brought to our awareness by the Holy Spirit. I have come to be grateful for those moments of anxiety though because it's like an alert to me that God is ready to bring something to the surface that isn't serving me well. It's soooo uncomfortable, but so worth it. 

 

New jobs, first dates, new schools, going to a new church, these are just a few things that can push us off balance and shake us up. Suddenly that old sense of self gets challenged and we wonder why we feel so insecure. 

 

I think Moses was feeling this same plague of insecurity when he begged God in Exodus 3 and 4 to send someone else to rescue the Israelites. It wasn’t enough for him that God had chosen and called him and then given him explicit instructions and crazy signs. Moses was like, “choose someone else!!” Why? Because he had already experienced the fear and anxiety that comes from stepping out when he had tried to resolve the conflict between the Hebrew slave and the Egyptian. He probably thought, “look where that got me.” He had had enough! He was dealing with fear about standing out again and potentially failing.

 

I think women today can all relate! There’s books flying off the shelves and speakers skyrocketing to popularity all because they are telling women that they don’t have to let their fears and anxieties hold them back! Women in our generation are dealing hardcore with their fears and anxieties and they’re realizing that these things are preventing them from taking steps of faith and obedience. It can be in a work setting, in a relationship, in a new friendship, or almost anything else in our lives.

The thing is that as Christian women we can be tempted to call this fear and anxiety something else: humility. We end up being ruled by insecurities and anxieties that stop us from taking risks and then labeling it something spiritual. 

 

So for this first week I want you to think about the times that you’ve felt the most insecure over the past 6 months or so. What was it about each situation that triggered that insecurity or anxiety? What feelings was that situation bringing up for you? Then I want you to take a step back and ask God how he felt about that situation- what would he have said to you right there?

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